I try to be happy, and when I’m happy, I always figure out that I’m settling for less.
Is settling for less the price of happiness?
If you long to reach the top of the ladder, you need to push yourself, which means you aren’t happy at your current state. And pushing yourself forward takes effort, which isn’t so comfortable.
Stoicism and other Buddhist philosophy advocates living and being contempt with less, so that we can experience the elevated level of happiness at all times. If we try and long for more, we won’t be happy.
For us to climb up, we need courage to climb, worry about falling, and put extraordinary effort.
It all dilutes the level of our happiness. But that’s the only road to greatness.
Your Goal: Happiness or Greatness?
The price of greatness and opportunity is happiness.
If you are happy with what you have then you won’t move for more — you don’t need to. And to move for more and achieve something, you need to suffer it’s consequences.
When I read about people who devote their lives to happiness, I feel like I’ve walked on stage of an obscure dry humor comedy, and I’m the only one who doesn’t get the joke. Happiness? Really? — Sebastian Marshall
I’m not even talking about how to reach your goal or how to be successful. I’m merely talking about the mindset we live in.
Anyone who grows up thinking of becoming the greatest man on earth will have to think that his/her position is nothing compared to the greatest people on earth. As soon as you start comparing yourself with the greatest people on earth, you’ll lose happiness. It’s because you have a long way to go.
I’m not going to compare myself against people my age any more. I’m going to start comparing myself to the greatest men of all time. — Sebastian Marshall
You can choose to be happy and content with what you have and never long for more as well. But that’s other part of the spectrum which begets less impact on the world.
People who don’t move ahead are very afraid that they’ll lose their happiness. Are you afraid to move forward because you’ll lose happiness?
I’m to this point where I think we make those decisions unconsciously. And that, it doesn’t come naturally to most of us.
You wanted a television set, and you got it. You’re happy. But for you to work on your goals and reach the top of the ladder, you need to stop watching television. You need to work on your goals.
Most of us don’t quit Television because we lose our happiness. We lose that instant gratification watching Television gives us.
So we are unconsciously settling for less, and by doing so, being happy. It’s mostly unconscious because everyone watches Television and it starts to feel normal. We, human beings, are largely affected by our environment.
If everybody is watching television then you don’t think much about quitting it. Instead, you think that it’s normal and unconsciously settle for it.
I am already happy with what I have, or at least, I can be happy with what I have. But I won’t be able to achieve my goal through this. I need to consider and be willing to suffer and pay the price of happiness to achieve my life goal.
You should too.
Dear,Manish I read your articles. And I liked all. I am a very upset ,stressed man . your articles gave me some happiness and courage. I appreciate you.
I always feel of black magic around me.I have lost my elder brother & my father ( perhaps) because of black magic. I have spend a lot of money to cure us from black magic. But in vein. Nothing happened. I am the same.
I want to know that is black magic exist in this world or it is a psychological affect.
Please show me the way