There are times when we get angry, frustrated and sad. Most of the time it is because of the situation, environment and people we are uncomfortable with. We have started becoming less and less happier day by day. If you want to stay happy and enjoy your life then I have good news for you. I’ll elaborate about the 5 simple secrets to stay happy in your life. It is really simple. I want you to remember your 5 fingers because I have 5 points for you to stay happy. The fingers in your hands are Thumb, Grooming, Middle, Ring and Little fingers.
1. Opposite values are complimentary to each other (Thumb Finger):
Everything has two sides. A coin cannot have only one side. You wouldn’t know what sweet is until you know what is bitter. You feel the presence of love after you know how you feel to be unloved. You know day exists because you have seen night. Whenever something goes wrong in your life think that opposite values are complimentary to each other and the situation will help you bring good things in your life later on. If nothing bad has ever happened to you then you won’t know how it feels to have good things in life. You may already be in one of the best lifestyle others dream of but you don’t know it simply because you don’t know what it feels to not have those things in your life. So always remember that opposite values are complimentary to each other.
2. Accept people and situation as they are and take rational action (Grooming finger):
There are times when you don’t like the people you are with or you don’t like some particular person. That person may be comfortable with you but you may be very uncomfortable with that person and you lose your temper. At times we may get stuck in traffic jam and the situation gets really frustrating. Nothing is going to happen even if you bitch about the person you don’t like or start complaining about government for lack of facilities given. Since nothing can be done you should accept the people and situation as they are and take rational action. You can plug your ear phone and then listen to the music, look around, talk with other people and enjoy the environment. At any cost just save your mind. Don’t let people and situation take your happiness from you.
3. Don’t be Football of others (Middle Finger):
Don’t get sad just because somebody told you that your new shirt doesn’t look good or you chose wrong decision in buying a new cell phone. It’s you who is wearing your shirt so you should not care what others say. You should never get hyper excited when others praise you and get depressed when other’s comment negatively on you. It’s your life. Don’t care what others tell you. Every person has their own perspective and they may not prefer the same thing you prefer. It differs from person to person. Don’t be football of other means to not go wherever other people hit you. You become a football. They hit you and you move to the direction where they hit you. If they praise you then you become happy or else you get sad when you hear their negative comments. So, don’t be football of others.
4. Don’t seek intention behind others mistake (Ring Finger):
Everybody makes mistake. It’s not only you or me. Actually, we learn from mistakes. So there is no need to blame other for making mistake. At anytime anybody may break a glass so it’s of no use to blame him/her for breaking a glass or making any other mistakes. So not seeking intention behind others mistake is one of the secrets to live a life of happiness and enjoyment.
5. Live in the present moment (Little finger):
“If you are depressed you are living in the past. If you are anxious you are living in the future. If you are at peace you are living in the present.” – Laozi
We either live in the past or in the future. Past things bring stress, anger and regret whereas thinking about the future brings fear in our minds. We are living in the past or future most of the time. We wander what will happen to us in the future or we regret about the past and sometimes get angry about not doing well in the past. Even if we regret whole day nothing is going to happen. Just our minds will be preoccupied with fear, anger, stress, uncertainty and regret. Whenever you experience yourself in the past or future, close your eyes, take a deep breadth and concentrate on your breadth. This will bring your mind in the present state.
So always remember to live in the present moment and this will bring happiness in your life automatically.